24\/02\/2019<\/i><\/p>\n
Nga Batjar Halili<\/b>, psikolog<\/i><\/p>\n
Shpesh ne i portretizojm\u00eb psikopat\u00ebt si vras\u00ebs serial\u00eb, por jo t\u00eb gjith\u00eb psikopat\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb tmerrsh\u00ebm si n\u00eb filma. Shum\u00eb prej tyre shfaqin tipare psikopatike n\u00eb nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. N\u00eb fakt, keni hasur ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb disa psikopat\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ngjajn\u00eb relativisht t\u00eb zakonsh\u00ebm n\u00eb bot\u00ebn, ku neve nd\u00ebrveprojm\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Para se t\u00eb dallosh nj\u00eb psikopat, duhet t\u00eb kuptosh se \u00e7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Psikopat nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb diagnoz\u00eb mjek\u00ebsore. Psikopat\u00ebt dhe sociopat\u00ebt bien n\u00ebn diagnoz\u00ebn e \u00e7rregullimit t\u00eb personalitetit antisocial, q\u00eb mund t\u00eb rrjedh\u00eb nga nj\u00eb shum\u00ebllojshm\u00ebri e faktor\u00ebve gjenetik\u00eb dhe mjedisor. Shum\u00eb m\u00eb tep\u00ebr burrat se grat\u00eb i p\u00ebrmbushin kriteret e psikopatis\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Psikopat\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb gjithnj\u00eb t\u00eb leht\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u dalluar, dhe shpesh, jan\u00eb mjaft t\u00eb p\u00eblqyesh\u00ebm \u2013 s\u00eb paku fillimisht. Por me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, natyra e tyre e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb b\u00ebhet gjithnj\u00eb e m\u00eb e dukshme.<\/p>\n
Ata arrijm\u00eb t\u2019i dallojm\u00eb nga bagazhi i dob\u00ebt intelektual dhe shpesh jan\u00eb t\u00eb varf\u00ebr n\u00eb fjal\u00ebt e tyre q\u00eb flasin dhe terminologjia e p\u00ebrdorur prej tyre \u00ebsht\u00eb e gabuar. Si p\u00ebr shembull p\u00ebrdorimi i shpesht\u00eb i fjal\u00ebve t\u00eb tilla si; RESPEKT, RESPEKT, RESPEKT, DOMETH\u00cbN\u00cb, DOMETH\u00cbN\u00cb, GJITHSESI, GJITHSESI (q\u00eb n\u00eb gjuh\u00ebn shqipe quhen fjal\u00eb parazitare) e ato fjal\u00eb nuk hiqen aspak nga bagazhi i fjalorit debilsek dhe monoton t\u00eb tyre, duke b\u00ebr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb ken\u00eb munges\u00eb kohezioni n\u00eb t\u00eb folur dhe t\u00eb kalojn\u00eb n\u00eb dukuri kakofonike.<\/p>\n
Rastet ekstreme t\u00eb k\u00ebtyre modeleve q\u00eb i hasim n\u00eb realitetin e shoq\u00ebris\u00eb kosovare jan\u00eb tipa q\u00eb nuk din\u00eb as t\u00eb shkruajn\u00eb nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb paradoksalisht ngrihen n\u00eb karrier\u00eb e n\u00eb poste, duke proklamuar dhe shitur si nivel t\u00eb lart\u00eb t\u00eb arritjes s\u00eb tyre intelektuale, pjes\u00ebmarrjen n\u00ebp\u00ebr konferenca nd\u00ebkomb\u00ebtare.<\/p>\n
Fatkeq\u00ebsisht k\u00ebto karaktere shpesh i kemi t\u00eb instaluar n\u00eb institucionet e r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme, si; Universitete, Borde t\u00eb ndryshme drejtuese, Institucione ku kan\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi t\u00eb m\u00ebdha administrative dhe ligjore.<\/p>\n
E n\u00ebse flasim pse e kemi gjendjen k\u00ebshtu si\u00e7 e kemi n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb ton\u00eb kjo pyetje \u00ebsht\u00eb me vet\u00ebp\u00ebrgjigje sepse psikopat\u00ebt dhe sociopat\u00ebt jan\u00eb brenda istitucioneve.<\/p>\n
P\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuar gjendjen instituconale un\u00eb propozoj q\u00eb k\u00ebtyre personave fillimisht t\u2019u b\u00ebh\u00ebt testi p\u00ebr t\u00eb matur shkath\u00ebsit\u00eb, aft\u00ebsit\u00eb dhe gjendjen e zhvillimit psikologjik t\u00eb tyre pastaj ata mund t\u00eb b\u00ebhen pjes\u00eb e institucionit p\u00ebrkat\u00ebs, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb n\u00eb sh\u00ebrbim t\u00eb ligjit dhe t\u00eb drejt\u00ebs e jo t\u00eb veprojn\u00eb n\u00eb baz\u00eb t\u00eb mendimeve psikopatike dhe \u00e7rregullimeve t\u00eb personalitetit t\u00eb tyre, duke thyer \u00e7do norm\u00eb morale dhe ligjore.<\/p>\n
M\u00eb posht\u00eb po parashtroj disa karakteristika q\u00eb i b\u00ebjn\u00eb psikopat\u00ebt t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb till\u00eb:<\/p>\n
Ata jan\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonisht \u201csimpatik\u00eb\u201d<\/b><\/p>\n
Psikopat\u00ebt jan\u00eb pothuajse gjithmon\u00eb t\u00eb p\u00eblqyer. Ata ndeshen si njer\u00ebz t\u00eb k\u00ebndsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb biseda t\u00eb shkurt\u00ebra. Mendja e tyre e shpejt\u00eb tenton t\u2019i t\u00ebrheq\u00eb njer\u00ebzit tek ata. Ata zakonisht kan\u00eb histori interesante. Tregimet e tyre bind\u00ebse i p\u00ebrshkruajn\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb drit\u00eb t\u00eb favorshme, por t\u00eb besueshme. Njer\u00ebzit largohen nga bisedat me ta mjaft t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur.<\/p>\n
Ata nuk p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb keqardhje<\/b><\/p>\n
Mungesa e fajit mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb flamuri i par\u00eb i kuq q\u00eb sinjalizon se dikush mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb psikopat. Psikopat\u00ebt nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb gjendje t\u00eb ndiejn\u00eb ndonj\u00eb keqardhje t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Ata nuk pranojn\u00eb asnj\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsi p\u00ebr d\u00ebmtimin e ndjenjave t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. N\u00eb vend t\u00eb k\u00ebsaj, ata faj\u00ebsojn\u00eb njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb dhe mohojn\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb. Nj\u00eb psikopat mund t\u00eb thot\u00eb se dikush \u201cmeriton\u201d t\u00eb trajtohet keq. Ose, ata mund t\u00eb heqin dor\u00eb nga raportet q\u00eb kan\u00eb ofenduar dik\u00eb duke th\u00ebn\u00eb, \u201cAjo duhet t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb pak e ndjeshme\u201d ose \u201cUn\u00eb mendoj se ai nuk mund ta thot\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn\u201d.<\/p>\n
Ata jan\u00eb me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb arrogant\u00eb<\/b><\/p>\n
Psikopat\u00ebt kan\u00eb nj\u00eb ndjenj\u00eb t\u00eb tepruar t\u00eb mendjemadh\u00ebsis\u00eb. Nj\u00ebsoj si narcisit\u00ebt, ata mendojn\u00eb se rregullat e zakonshme nuk zbatohen p\u00ebr ta. Ata gjithashtu priren t\u00eb ken\u00eb ide madh\u00ebshtore n\u00eb lidhje me potencialin e tyre. Vazhdimisht reklamojn\u00eb \u201csukseset\u201d e tyre, qofshin edhe k\u00ebto mediokre. Ata besojn\u00eb se meritojn\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb CEO (cief executive officer) shefi ekzekutiv p\u00ebr \u00e7do gj\u00eb, ose ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb bindur se jan\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00ebt n\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Ata marrin rreziqe t\u00eb m\u00ebdha<\/b><\/p>\n
Psikopat\u00ebt kan\u00eb pak lidhje me sigurin\u00eb, sidomos me njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb. Shpesh ata g\u00ebnjejn\u00eb, mashtrojn\u00eb dhe vjedhin p\u00ebr t\u00eb shkuar p\u00ebrpara. Kjo sjellje mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht toksike. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb q\u00eb jo t\u00eb gjith\u00eb psikopat\u00ebt p\u00ebrfshihen haptazi n\u00eb veprimtari t\u00eb paligjshme, ata arrijn\u00eb q\u00eb t\u00eb planifikojn\u00eb krimet e tyre edhe m\u00eb par\u00eb. Keqp\u00ebrdorimi i tyre zakonisht \u00ebsht\u00eb \u201ci organizuar mir\u00eb\u201d dhe ata l\u00ebn\u00eb pas pak gjurm\u00eb. Psikopat\u00ebt kan\u00eb tendenc\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb shum\u00eb inteligjent\u00eb, gj\u00eb q\u00eb i b\u00ebn ata \u201cartist\u00eb t\u00eb m\u00ebdh\u00ebnj\u201d.<\/p>\n
Ata jan\u00eb manipulator\u00eb mjesht\u00ebr<\/b><\/p>\n
Ata nuk p\u00ebrjetojn\u00eb emocione t\u00eb v\u00ebrteta ndaj t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. Por ata mund t\u00eb imitojn\u00eb emocionet e njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb dhe, shpeshher\u00eb, ata duken shum\u00eb si t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb. Si rezultat, t\u00eb dashurit e tyre shpesh nuk kan\u00eb iden\u00eb se ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb paaft\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u2019u kujdesur me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb p\u00ebr njer\u00ebzit e tjer\u00eb.<\/p>\n
Psikopat\u00ebt jan\u00eb me t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb t\u00eb mir\u00eb n\u00eb manipulimin e emocioneve t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb. Ata i k\u00ebnaqin t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb delikate, por efektive dhe, para s\u00eb gjithash, i bindin t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt q\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb gj\u00ebra q\u00eb normalisht nuk do donin t\u2019i b\u00ebnin. Ata gjithashtu p\u00ebrdorin metoda p\u00ebr t\u2019u dukur si t\u00eb pafajsh\u00ebm ose fitojn\u00eb simpati p\u00ebr t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushur nevojat e tyre psikopatike.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
24\/02\/2019 Nga Batjar Halili, psikolog Shpesh ne i portretizojm\u00eb psikopat\u00ebt si vras\u00ebs serial\u00eb, por jo t\u00eb gjith\u00eb psikopat\u00ebt jan\u00eb t\u00eb tmerrsh\u00ebm si n\u00eb filma. Shum\u00eb prej tyre shfaqin tipare psikopatike n\u00eb nj\u00eb shkall\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb vog\u00ebl. N\u00eb fakt, keni hasur ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb disa psikopat\u00eb, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt ngjajn\u00eb relativisht t\u00eb zakonsh\u00ebm n\u00eb bot\u00ebn, ku neve nd\u00ebrveprojm\u00eb. […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":38673,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-38667","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-artikuj"],"yoast_head":"\n