{"id":54953,"date":"2020-04-30T12:08:45","date_gmt":"2020-04-30T11:08:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fjala.info\/?p=54953"},"modified":"2020-04-30T12:41:14","modified_gmt":"2020-04-30T11:41:14","slug":"edhe-sa-kohe-do-ta-provoni-durimin-tone-ju-bastarde","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jehonashqiptare.al\/fjala\/edhe-sa-kohe-do-ta-provoni-durimin-tone-ju-bastarde\/","title":{"rendered":"Edhe sa koh\u00eb do ta provoni durimin ton\u00eb, ju bastard\u00eb?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Nga Aurel Dasareti<\/strong>, USA<\/em>, ekspert i shkencave ushtarake-psikologjike<\/em> (dasaretiaurel@yahoo.com.au<\/a>)<\/p>\n

Shqiptar\u00ebt e diaspor\u00ebs gjithmon\u00eb kan\u00eb mbajtur n\u00eb zemrat e tyre atdheun, ku gjendeshin rr\u00ebnj\u00ebt e tyre. Tradita dhe zakone t\u00eb tilla, por edhe dashurin\u00eb p\u00ebr atdheun, ata e p\u00ebr\u00e7uan nga brezi n\u00eb brez.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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\u201cUn\u00eb nuk kam nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi m\u00eb t\u00eb bukur dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb dashur se ty, Shqip\u00ebria ime. N\u00ebse nuk do t\u00eb isha i detyruar, nuk do t\u00eb ndahesha kurr\u00eb nga ty, nuk do t\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshoja p\u00ebr nj\u00eb sht\u00ebpi t\u00eb dyt\u00eb…<\/em>\u201d- citat nga ditari i gjyshit tim t\u00eb moshuar, q\u00eb n\u00eb vitin 1943 ka qen\u00eb i detyruar t\u00eb emigroj\u00eb n\u00eb Amerik\u00eb.<\/p>\n

M\u00eb posht\u00eb, hartimin me shkrim, q\u00eb e shkrova si 6 vje\u00e7ar n\u00eb klas\u00ebn e par\u00eb t\u00eb shkoll\u00ebs fillore n\u00eb Australi, sot e p\u00ebrkthej n\u00eb shqip:<\/p>\n

“Shqip\u00ebri, kam d\u00ebgjuar p\u00ebr ty q\u00eb nga lindja,
\nn\u00eb f\u00ebmij\u00ebrin\u00eb time \u00ebnd\u00ebrroj p\u00ebr ty,
\nq\u00eb n\u00eb rinin\u00eb time do t\u00eb t\u00eb shoh p\u00ebr her\u00eb t\u00eb par\u00eb,
\ndhe do t\u00eb t\u00eb dua p\u00ebrgjithmon\u00eb\u201d!<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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\u00c7far\u00eb do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb duash atdheun t\u00ebnd? E dua Shqip\u00ebrin\u00eb. E dua detin e saj, malet e saj, barishtet, kafsh\u00ebt (me p\u00ebrjashtim t\u00eb k\u00eblysh\u00ebve rusofil…) i adhuroj disa njer\u00ebz q\u00eb jetojn\u00eb atje. Kush mund dhe ka t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb mat\u00eb dashurin\u00eb time, dhe pse dashuria ime do t\u00eb ishte m\u00eb pak se dashuria jote?! Dashuria ndaj atdheut nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb bindje dhe heqje dor\u00eb nga pik\u00ebpamjet e dikujt. N\u00eb dashurin\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, t\u00eb gjitha pal\u00ebt e p\u00ebrfshira kan\u00eb t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb shprehin plot\u00ebsisht lirisht mendimet e tyre. Dashuria e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb ndaj atdheut n\u00ebnkupton komunikim t\u00eb shk\u00eblqyesh\u00ebm t\u00eb dyansh\u00ebm, toleranc\u00eb, respekt midis bashkatdhetar\u00ebve p\u00ebr mendimet e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve dhe respekt p\u00ebr ndjenjat e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve\u2026<\/p>\n

Dhe, kur nj\u00ebra pal\u00eb nuk e jep at\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb ka an\u00ebn e pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsis\u00eb nga ana tjet\u00ebr, dhe ajo pal\u00eb zem\u00ebrohet, k\u00ebrkon at\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e nevojshme, dhe n\u00ebse nuk funksionon, marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnia nd\u00ebr-v\u00ebllaz\u00ebrore prishet. Q\u00eb nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb se respekti ndaj tyre q\u00eb mendojn\u00eb ndryshe ama nuk kan\u00eb q\u00ebllime djall\u00ebzore zhduket, por \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb kthehesh tek e vjetra m\u00eb pas. Urat jan\u00eb shkat\u00ebrruar dhe hidh\u00ebrimi mbetet\u2026<\/p>\n

Ne t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ishim shum\u00eb \u201enaiv\u00eb\u201c n\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb dhe e donim vendin ton\u00eb, gjithashtu donim disa njer\u00ebz t\u00eb gabuar, krejt\u00ebsisht t\u00eb \u00e7mendur dhe budallenj, dhe \u00e7far\u00ebdo t\u00eb keqe q\u00eb ata t\u00eb b\u00ebnin ndaj nesh, ne ende do t’i donim dhe mbledhim th\u00ebrrimet. T\u00eb gjith\u00eb duhet ta kalojn\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb faz\u00eb, por nj\u00eb njeri i zgjuar rritet me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, m\u00ebson ta dashuroj\u00eb veten e tij para s\u00eb gjithash, pastaj t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt. M\u00ebsoni t\u00eb mos i vendosni emocionet tuaja n\u00eb pjat\u00eb, dhe mbi t\u00eb gjitha, m\u00ebsoni kur \u00ebsht\u00eb koha p\u00ebr t’u dh\u00ebn\u00eb fund t\u00eb gjitha prirjeve (anshm\u00ebrive) toksike…<\/p>\n

Atdheu gjithashtu p\u00ebrb\u00ebhet nga institucione, parti politike, polici, qeveri, gjykata, q\u00eb shpesh e keqp\u00ebrdorin detyr\u00ebn. Dhe ata duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebhen t\u00eb vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm se ne jemi t\u00eb rritur. Se ne nuk duam dhe nuk respektojm\u00eb m\u00eb gjith\u00e7ka pa kushte \u00e7ka bastard\u00ebt na parashtrojn\u00eb: nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb arsyetimesh t\u00eb rreme dhe nj\u00ebfar\u00eb numri t\u00eb dh\u00ebnash q\u00eb t`i kuptojm\u00eb m\u00eb mir\u00eb rr\u00ebfimet e tyre t\u00eb fabrikuara n\u00eb kuzhinat ruse, greke, serbe, turke etj. Ne kemi m\u00ebsuar se duhet t\u00eb k\u00ebrkojm\u00eb me z\u00eb t\u00eb lart\u00eb t\u00eb drejtat tona, t\u00eb mbrojm\u00eb dinjitetin ton\u00eb, t\u00eb luftojm\u00eb!…<\/p>\n

Jo, bashk\u00ebkomb\u00ebs t\u00eb nderuar, un\u00eb nuk e urrej vendin tim (gjegj\u00ebsisht, atdheun e gjysh\u00ebrve t\u00eb mi<\/em>); sikur t\u00eb kisha urrejtje ndaj tij, nuk do t\u00eb shikoja mbrapa, do t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqesha me zem\u00ebr, n\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb q\u00eb dua k\u00ebtu ku kam lindur dhe jetoj, nuk do t\u00eb helmoja nga gj\u00ebrat negative t\u00eb s\u00eb kaluar\u00ebs. Por vet\u00ebm sepse e dua shum\u00eb at\u00eb vend dhe ata njer\u00ebz, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja pse un\u00eb nuk duhet t\u00eb them, si\u00e7 thon\u00eb disa kok\u00ebtul q\u00eb i kuptojn\u00eb gj\u00ebrat me shum\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi: “nuk e p\u00ebrfilli<\/em><\/strong>“.<\/p>\n

Shum\u00eb prej tyre tashm\u00eb jan\u00eb zgjuar nga letargjia, duke p\u00ebrhapur krah\u00ebt e tyre. Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz u larguan nga vendlindja me zem\u00ebr t\u00eb thyer (si t\u00eb par\u00ebt e mi). Shum\u00eb mbet\u00ebn dhe d\u00ebshirojn\u00eb ndryshime p\u00ebr m\u00eb mir\u00eb, por kjo nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e mjaftueshme derisa shumica t\u00eb hap\u00eb syt\u00eb, mendjet e tyre, derisa t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ta kuptojn\u00eb se vet\u00ebm sepse \u00ebsht\u00eb mir\u00eb p\u00ebr ta nuk do t\u00eb thot\u00eb q\u00eb ata nuk duhet t\u00eb kujdesen se si e kan\u00eb gjendjen t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt…<\/p>\n

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Atdhe<\/strong>, do t\u00eb thot\u00eb vendi ku nj\u00eb person, ose bashk\u00ebsi, ka lindur, \u00ebsht\u00eb rritur, ku ai jeton, ose ku ai kalon jet\u00ebn e tij. Konstatojm\u00eb se dashuria p\u00ebr atdheun \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb emocion i natyrsh\u00ebm njer\u00ebzor. \u00c7do njeri (normal) e do atdheun e tij p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb kujtimeve q\u00eb e lidhin p\u00ebr at\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb, kombin, gjuh\u00ebn. \u00c7do njeri n\u00eb zemr\u00ebn e tij ka nj\u00eb dashuri p\u00ebr tok\u00ebn e tij t\u00eb lindjes.<\/p>\n

Padyshim q\u00eb dashuria p\u00ebr atdheun \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga vlerat morale q\u00eb siguron bashk\u00ebsin\u00eb dhe unitetin midis individ\u00ebve. Ne e dim\u00eb q\u00eb paraardh\u00ebsit tan\u00eb ruanin atdheun e tyre, luftuan p\u00ebr t\u00eb dhe ran\u00eb si d\u00ebshmor\u00eb. Fal\u00eb tyre, ne jetojm\u00eb n\u00eb paqe sot… N\u00eb qoft\u00eb se atdheu nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i bashkuar dhe unifikuar, ai shp\u00ebrb\u00ebhet shpejt.<\/p>\n

Un\u00eb rekomandoj q\u00eb t\u00eb jemi bashk\u00eb, sidomos n\u00eb k\u00ebto momente vdekjeprur\u00ebse nga virusi kinez (pandemia), sepse n\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00ebjt\u00ebn koh\u00eb duhet patjet\u00ebr ta luftojm\u00eb dhe shp\u00ebtojm\u00eb cop\u00ebtimin e radh\u00ebs t\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs nga virusi i bastard\u00ebve shqipfol\u00ebs. Pra, apeloj q\u00eb n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb rigoroze t\u00eb jemi t\u00eb rrept\u00eb kund\u00ebr k\u00eblysh\u00ebve q\u00eb p\u00ebrpiqen t\u00eb na shp\u00ebrndajn\u00eb (shp\u00ebrb\u00ebjn\u00eb) Kombin dhe cop\u00ebtojn\u00eb Vendin duke ia dh\u00ebn\u00eb Serbis\u00eb. Kjo vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb shp\u00ebtuar prapanic\u00ebn e vet\u00eb nga gjykata speciale p\u00ebr krime (ndaj shqiptar\u00ebve), dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos i humbur pasurit\u00eb e fituara nga kriminaliteti.<\/p>\n

Vet\u00ebm \u00e7mendarak\u00ebt e arratisur nga qendrat psikiatrike i lejojn\u00eb vetes ta dashurojn\u00eb pakufish\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb ngjiten fort\u00eb (pa kusht\u00ebzime) pas ndonj\u00eb partie \u201epolitike\u201c n\u00eb d\u00ebm t\u00eb vetvetes, familjes dhe Atdheut. A doni serish t\u00eb ktheheni n\u00ebn sundimin serbo-\u00e7etnik vet\u00ebm p\u00ebr arsye q\u00eb t\u00eb tregoni besnik\u00ebri ndaj simpatizuesve t\u00eb juaj kriminel\u00eb? A nuk e kuptoni se n\u00ebse ktheheni atje ku ishit (n\u00ebn terrorin serb) do t`jua b\u00ebjn\u00eb edhe m\u00eb keq se para \u201c\u00e7lirimit\u201d, dhe askush m\u00eb nuk do t`ju shp\u00ebtoj nga kanxhat e tyre?<\/p>\n

Amerika u shp\u00ebtoi n\u00eb vitin 1999, nd\u00ebrkaq ju 20 vjet nuk dinit t\u00eb formoni shtet normal-funksional, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb arsyeja pse ju jeni aty ku jeni; n\u00eb vend q\u00eb t’i kapni kriminel\u00ebt p\u00ebr gushe dhe fugni n\u00eb koshin me plehra \u2013 akoma e luftoni nj\u00ebri-tjetrin sikur t\u00eb ishit gjela!<\/em><\/p>\n

Mos shpresoni se diaspora gjith\u00eb-shqiptare edhe m\u00eb tej do t\u00eb jet\u00eb me ju, n\u00ebse p\u00ebr shkak t\u00eb inateve primitive dhe mentalitetit klanor t\u00eb juaj, akoma mbeteni simpatizues t\u00eb kriminel\u00ebve.<\/p>\n

\u201cP\u00ebr inat t\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00ebs, do t’ia lejoj kodoshit t\u00eb m\u00eb d\u00ebmtoje…<\/em>\u201d – ka th\u00ebn\u00eb nj\u00eb rospie.<\/p>\n

Ata 82 \u201cdeputet\u00ebt e Kuvendit\u201d tragjikomik q\u00eb me pu\u00e7 e rr\u00ebzuan qeverin\u00eb legale t\u00eb VV, e tani krijojn\u00eb \u201cqeverin\u00eb\u201d joligjore, po ju sakrifikojn\u00eb p\u00ebr interesat e tyre, sepse mendojn\u00eb se jeni kok\u00ebtul\u00eb<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Sojs\u00ebz\u00ebt<\/strong> i kan\u00eb siguruar familjar\u00ebt e vet\u00eb me pasuri kriminale marramend\u00ebse t\u00eb vjedhur nga ju, e ju flijoheni p\u00ebr ata n\u00eb d\u00ebm t\u00eb familjes s\u00eb juaj?!!!
\nServilizmi i juaj ndaj tradhtar\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb i \u00e7uditsh\u00ebm. Ndryshoni q\u00ebndrimet vet\u00ebvras\u00ebse, ose merrni trajtim psikologjik, urgjentisht!<\/p>\n

Bota \u00e7uditet q\u00eb shqiptar\u00ebt e Kosov\u00ebs edhe pas 20 vjet vuajtje nga regjimi i bastard\u00ebve, i lejojn\u00eb vetes t\u00eb vuajn\u00eb ende duke mos b\u00ebr\u00eb asgj\u00eb. Un\u00eb do t\u00eb doja q\u00eb bashk\u00ebkomb\u00ebsit e mi t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb se dashuria p\u00ebr Atdheun faktikisht \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb dashuri e pakusht\u00ebzuar p\u00ebr veten e tyre. Atdhedashuria nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb aspak p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve, por para s\u00eb gjithash p\u00ebr hir t\u00eb vetvetes<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

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A u mungon shqiptar\u00ebve krenaria? Tradhtar\u00ebt e urrejn\u00eb vendin e tyre dhe qytetar\u00ebt e saj.<\/em>
\nEdhe sikur Drejt\u00ebsia<\/strong> n\u00eb shtetin am\u00eb Shqip\u00ebri dhe pjes\u00ebn e cop\u00ebtuar t\u00eb saj Dardani (Kosov\u00eb), t\u00eb mos ishte e kapur nga kriminel\u00ebt, d\u00ebnimi m\u00eb i r\u00ebnd\u00eb n\u00eb Ligjin<\/strong> e dy shteteve tona, nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nd\u00ebshkim i mjaftuesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr k\u00ebta autor\u00eb barbar\u00eb q\u00eb punojn\u00eb p\u00ebr shkat\u00ebrrimin e Vendit dhe shp\u00ebrb\u00ebrjen e Kombit.<\/em><\/p>\n

PS<\/strong>: Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb kritik\u00eb vet\u00ebm ndaj atyre q\u00eb kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb…<\/em><\/p>\n