{"id":72310,"date":"2021-10-24T01:16:46","date_gmt":"2021-10-23T23:16:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/fjala.info\/?p=72310"},"modified":"2021-10-24T01:32:33","modified_gmt":"2021-10-23T23:32:33","slug":"pse-te-gjithe-jane-kaq-te-vrazhde-tani","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jehonashqiptare.al\/fjala\/pse-te-gjithe-jane-kaq-te-vrazhde-tani\/","title":{"rendered":"Pse t\u00eb gjith\u00eb jan\u00eb kaq t\u00eb vrazhd\u00eb tani"},"content":{"rendered":"

Time.com<\/a>, nga BELINDA LUSCOMBE<\/strong>, 15 tetor 2021<\/em> – P\u00ebrkthyer nga Arben \u00c7okaj<\/strong><\/a><\/em>.<\/p>\n

Shtatori i vitit 2021 ishte nj\u00eb muaj i keq p\u00ebr sjelljet. N\u00eb dat\u00ebn 21, nj\u00eb grua t\u00ebrhoqi k\u00ebmb\u00ebz\u00ebn e nj\u00eb arme<\/a> ndaj sh\u00ebrbyesve n\u00eb nj\u00eb restorant t\u00eb ushqimit t\u00eb shpejt\u00eb n\u00eb Filadelfia, kur ata i k\u00ebrkuan asaj t\u00eb porosiste n\u00eb internet. M\u00eb 16, disa gra nga Teksasi godit\u00ebn me grusht<\/a> nj\u00eb zonj\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb restorant t\u00eb stilit familjar n\u00eb qytetin e Nju Jorkut. Disa dit\u00eb m\u00eb par\u00eb, nj\u00eb n\u00ebn\u00eb e Konektikatit u hetua p\u00ebr goditjen me shuplak\u00eb t\u00eb nj\u00eb shoferi t\u00eb autobusit<\/a> t\u00eb shkoll\u00ebs fillore dhe po at\u00eb jav\u00eb, nj\u00eb grua nga Kalifornia u akuzua p\u00ebr sulm t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00eb<\/a> p\u00ebr sulmin ndaj nj\u00eb stjuardese t\u00eb linj\u00ebs ajrore SouthWest, duke i hequr disa nga dh\u00ebmb\u00ebt e saj.<\/p>\n

Rihyrja n\u00eb shoq\u00ebrin\u00eb e sjellshme po rezulton t\u00eb jet\u00eb pak me gunga.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Sigurisht, jan\u00eb incidentet e njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb kan\u00eb humbur-mendjet e tyre-dashuruese q\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb lajmin, por ato jan\u00eb gjithashtu nj\u00eb pasqyrim i nj\u00eb tendence m\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb; Amerikan\u00ebt duket se i kan\u00eb harruar sjelljet e tyre, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht me ata, detyra e t\u00eb cil\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb t’i ndihmojn\u00eb. Avokat\u00ebt po raportojn\u00eb klient\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb vrazhd\u00eb. Restorantet po raportojn\u00eb klient\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb vrazhd\u00eb. Stjuardesat, p\u00ebr t\u00eb cil\u00ebt klient\u00ebt e vrazhd\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb risi, po raportojn\u00eb kaos. (Gjobat e FAA-s\u00eb p\u00ebr sjellje t\u00eb padisiplinuar kan\u00eb tejkaluar tashm\u00eb nj\u00eb milion dollar\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb vit.) Kaq miz\u00ebri jan\u00eb raportet e mosmir\u00ebnjohjes, q\u00eb disa biznese q\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me klient\u00ebt jan\u00eb detyruar t\u00eb luajn\u00eb Miss Manners.<\/p>\n

Vizitor\u00ebt n\u00eb sistemin sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsor t\u00eb Universitetit Indiana tani p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndeten nga nj\u00eb tabel\u00eb q\u00eb thot\u00eb, “Ju lutemi merrni p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr energjin\u00eb q\u00eb sillni n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb hap\u00ebsir\u00eb \u200b\u200b… sjelljet tuaja kan\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsi.<\/em>” Klinika Cleveland p\u00ebrdor ato q\u00eb i quan kontrata t\u00eb sjelljes kur sjellja e pacient\u00ebve \u00ebsht\u00eb vazhdimisht e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb. Klinika ka l\u00ebshuar n\u00ebnt\u00eb kontrata t\u00eb tilla n\u00eb vitin 2017; deri m\u00eb tani k\u00ebt\u00eb vit, \u00ebsht\u00eb l\u00ebshuar 111.<\/p>\n

Nuk jan\u00eb vet\u00ebm sistemet sh\u00ebndet\u00ebsore. Shoqata e Mikpritjes e Rhode Island, pas nj\u00eb takimi urgjent n\u00eb korrik, krijoi nj\u00eb Toolkit Ju lutemi t\u00eb jeni t\u00eb sjellsh\u00ebm<\/a> p\u00ebr an\u00ebtar\u00ebt e saj, p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb postera t\u00eb shkarkuesh\u00ebm. Shoqata e restoranteve n\u00eb Massachusetts nisi nj\u00eb fushat\u00eb billborde p\u00ebr t’u kujtuar klient\u00ebve se restorantet ende po kthehen n\u00eb shpejt\u00ebsi, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb gj\u00ebrat mund t\u00eb l\u00ebvizin pak m\u00eb ngadal\u00eb se zakonisht. Sidoqoft\u00eb, njer\u00ebzit kan\u00eb qen\u00eb aq t\u00eb vrazhd\u00eb, saq\u00eb t\u00eb pakt\u00ebn nj\u00eb restorant n\u00eb zon\u00eb u ndje i detyruar t\u00eb mbyllej p\u00ebr nj\u00eb dit\u00eb<\/a>, p\u00ebr t’u dh\u00ebn\u00eb punonj\u00ebsve t\u00eb tij koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t’u sh\u00ebruar nga pahijshm\u00ebria e mysafir\u00ebve.<\/p>\n

Disa njer\u00ebz mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb menduar se, pasi u penguan t\u00eb p\u00ebrziheshin me njer\u00ebz t\u00eb tjer\u00eb p\u00ebr nj\u00eb periudh\u00eb, njer\u00ebzit do ta p\u00ebrsh\u00ebndesnin rikthimin e aktivitetit shoq\u00ebror me p\u00ebrqafime, arg\u00ebtim dhe shoq\u00ebri. Por n\u00eb shum\u00eb m\u00ebnyra, thon\u00eb psikolog\u00ebt, ndarja e gjat\u00eb i ka b\u00ebr\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb ngarkuara nd\u00ebrveprimet sociale. Kombinimi i nj\u00eb s\u00ebmundjeje ngjit\u00ebse, k\u00ebrc\u00ebnuese p\u00ebr jet\u00ebn dhe nj\u00eb s\u00ebr\u00eb ndryshimesh t\u00eb paprecedent\u00eb, q\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn n\u00eb rregullat e angazhimit njer\u00ebzor, i kan\u00eb l\u00ebn\u00eb njer\u00ebzit n\u00eb ankth, konfuz dhe, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht n\u00ebse nuk besojn\u00eb se kufizimet ishin t\u00eb nevojshme, t\u00eb zem\u00ebruar thell\u00eb.<\/p>\n

Instinktet tona t\u00eb ‘luft\u00ebs’ jan\u00eb ndezur<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u201cNe po kalojm\u00eb nj\u00eb koh\u00eb ku fiziologjikisht, sistemi i k\u00ebrc\u00ebnimit t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb nivel t\u00eb lart\u00eb\u201d, thot\u00eb Bernard Golden, nj\u00eb psikolog dhe autor i Kap\u00ebrcimit t\u00eb Zem\u00ebrimit Destruktiv. Kjo periudh\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnimi ka qen\u00eb aq e gjat\u00eb sa mund t\u00eb ket\u00eb pasur nj\u00eb efekt t\u00eb d\u00ebmsh\u00ebm n\u00eb sh\u00ebndetin mendor t\u00eb njer\u00ebzve, i cili p\u00ebr shum\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb dob\u00ebsuar m\u00eb tej nga izolimi, humbja e burimeve, vdekja e njer\u00ebzve t\u00eb dashur dhe mb\u00ebshtetja e reduktuar sociale. \u201cGjat\u00eb COVID ka pasur nj\u00eb rritje t\u00eb ankthit, nj\u00eb rritje t\u00eb raportuar t\u00eb depresionit dhe nj\u00eb k\u00ebrkes\u00eb n\u00eb rritje p\u00ebr sh\u00ebrbime t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetit mendor,\u201d shton ai. Shum\u00eb njer\u00ebz, me fjal\u00eb t\u00eb tjera, jan\u00eb n\u00eb nervin e tyre t\u00eb fundit. Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, shton ai, n\u00ebse ata besojn\u00eb se virusi \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb k\u00ebrc\u00ebnim ekzistencial apo jo. “Gjysma e njer\u00ebzve kan\u00eb frik\u00eb nga COVID,” thot\u00eb Golden. “Gjysma e njer\u00ebzve kan\u00eb frik\u00eb t\u00eb kontrollohen.”<\/p>\n

Duke rritur ankthin, situata aktuale \u00ebsht\u00eb plot\u00ebsisht e panjohur p\u00ebr shumic\u00ebn e njer\u00ebzve. \u201cAskush nuk e priste at\u00eb q\u00eb ndodhi. Ne nuk kishim koh\u00eb p\u00ebr t’u p\u00ebrgatitur psikologjikisht, “thot\u00eb Cristina Bicchieri, drejtoresh\u00eb e Qendr\u00ebs p\u00ebr Normat Sociale dhe Dinamikat e Sjelljes n\u00eb Universitetin e Pensilvanis\u00eb. Pastaj, ashtu si\u00e7 dukej se rreziku kishte kaluar, mb\u00ebrrit\u00ebn kufizime t\u00eb tjera; mungesa e stafit, mungesa e produkteve, koh\u00eb m\u00eb e gjat\u00eb e dor\u00ebzimit. \u201cNjer\u00ebzit mendojn\u00eb, \u201cOk, tani mund t\u00eb b\u00ebjm\u00eb pazar dhe t\u00eb dalim jasht\u00eb\u201d, dhe ata zbulojn\u00eb se jeta nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb kthyer n\u00eb normalitet\u201d, thot\u00eb Bicchieri. “Ka nj\u00eb sasi t\u00eb madhe zhg\u00ebnjimi.”<\/p>\n

Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb atmosfer\u00eb q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ngat\u00ebrroj\u00eb edhe njer\u00ebzit normalisht shum\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00eb, ose n\u00eb t\u00eb cil\u00ebn shkelje shum\u00eb t\u00eb lehta mund t’i shtyjn\u00eb ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb m\u00eb pak kontroll mbi emocionet e tyre. (Dhe me nj\u00eb sistem t\u00eb mbingarkuar t\u00eb kujdesit t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetit mendor, ata q\u00eb kan\u00eb nevoj\u00eb p\u00ebr ndihm\u00eb mund t\u00eb mos e marrin at\u00eb.) Golden kishte nj\u00eb klient q\u00eb u zem\u00ebrua aq shum\u00eb kur makina p\u00ebrpara tij nuk iu p\u00ebrgjigj aq shpejt nj\u00eb drit\u00eb jeshile saq\u00eb ai e ndoqi at\u00eb n\u00eb sht\u00ebpi dhe shkoi dhe trokiti n\u00eb xhamin e shoferit. \u201cUn\u00eb i thash\u00eb: \u2018N\u00eb \u00c7ikago? Jeni marramend\u00ebs?” thot\u00eb Golden.<\/p>\n

Dinamika e fuqis\u00eb ka ndryshuar<\/strong><\/p>\n

Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rast\u00ebsi, thon\u00eb psikolog\u00ebt, se pjesa m\u00eb e madhe e pavdek\u00ebsis\u00eb ndodh ndaj njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb jan\u00eb n\u00eb industrit\u00eb e sh\u00ebrbimit ndaj klientit. “Njer\u00ebzit ndihen pothuajse t\u00eb drejt\u00eb t\u00eb jen\u00eb t\u00eb pasjellsh\u00ebm ndaj njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb nuk jan\u00eb n\u00eb nj\u00eb pozicion pushteti,” thot\u00eb Hans Steiner, profesor emeritus i psikiatris\u00eb n\u00eb Universitetin e Stanfordit. “Sidomos kur ata vijn\u00eb tek ata dhe u kujtojn\u00eb atyre faktin se ata duhet t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb \u00e7mos p\u00ebr t\u00eb hequr qafe k\u00ebt\u00eb pandemi.”<\/p>\n

Pun\u00ebtor\u00ebt q\u00eb tani jan\u00eb p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebs p\u00ebr zbatimin e rregullave konsiderohen tradicionalisht si kujdestar\u00eb dhe server\u00eb. Dinamika e energjis\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsuar plot\u00ebsisht. Dhe sigurisht, \u00ebsht\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb m\u00eb e leht\u00eb t\u00eb godas\u00ebsh. \u201c\u00cbsht\u00eb zem\u00ebrim i zhvendosur\u201d, thot\u00eb Bernard. “Ata jan\u00eb t\u00eb zem\u00ebruar p\u00ebr gj\u00ebra t\u00eb tjera, por ata i heqin ato n\u00eb ato takime.”<\/p>\n

Nuk ishte sikur amerikan\u00ebt t\u00eb shp\u00ebrfillnin sakt\u00ebsisht dallimet e tyre p\u00ebrpara pandemis\u00eb. Disa studiues theksojn\u00eb rritjen e ligj\u00ebrimit publik t\u00eb pap\u00ebrpunuar, si nga udh\u00ebheq\u00ebsit politik\u00eb ashtu edhe n\u00eb diskutimet n\u00eb internet – q\u00eb nxisin emocione t\u00eb m\u00ebdha – si vrazhd\u00ebsia e port\u00ebs q\u00eb ka \u00e7uar n\u00eb val\u00ebn aktuale. \u201cNe nuk e filtrojm\u00eb veten aq shum\u00eb sa dikur\u201d, thot\u00eb Bernard. \u201cN\u00eb internet, njer\u00ebzit ndihen sikur mund t\u00eb thon\u00eb \u00e7do gj\u00eb. Ata nuk e ruajn\u00eb m\u00eb veten. Dhe un\u00eb mendoj se ata e transferojn\u00eb at\u00eb munges\u00eb filtri n\u00eb jet\u00ebn publike. Un\u00eb mendoj se nga lidershipi q\u00eb kemi pasur n\u00eb vitet e fundit, kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb vet\u00ebm m\u00eb e inkurajuar.\u201d<\/p>\n

Por ajo shkon m\u00eb thell\u00eb: nd\u00ebrveprimet e pasjellshme nuk jan\u00eb e vetmja gj\u00eb q\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb n\u00eb rritje; krimet jan\u00eb gjithashtu. “Ne po shohim rritje t\u00eb matshme n\u00eb t\u00eb gjitha llojet e krimeve, k\u00ebshtu q\u00eb kjo m\u00eb sugjeron se ka di\u00e7ka q\u00eb ndryshon,” thot\u00eb Jay Van Bavel, profesor i asociuar i psikologjis\u00eb dhe shkenc\u00ebs nervore, dhe bashk\u00ebautor i nj\u00eb libri mbi harmonin\u00eb shoq\u00ebrore, The Power of Us, q\u00eb doli n\u00eb shtator. Ai sugjeron se arsyet p\u00ebr rritjen e t\u00eb dyjave jan\u00eb strukturore dhe t\u00eb thella; Amerika ka humbur ndjenj\u00ebn e kohezionit shoq\u00ebror, si rezultat i zgjerimit t\u00eb hendekut midis klas\u00ebs s\u00eb pasur dhe asaj pun\u00ebtore. \u201cSa m\u00eb shum\u00eb pabarazi t\u00eb ket\u00eb \u2013 e cila \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb v\u00ebrtet e keqe n\u00eb dekadat e fundit \u2013 aq m\u00eb pak ndjenj\u00eb kohezioni ka n\u00eb klasat socio-ekonomike\u201d, thot\u00eb ai. “Kjo \u00ebsht\u00eb di\u00e7ka q\u00eb n\u00ebse nuk adresohet do t\u00eb vazhdoj\u00eb t\u00eb shkaktoj\u00eb trazira.”<\/p>\n

Rregullat u rishkruan<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ekziston nj\u00eb marr\u00ebveshje nd\u00ebrkomb\u00ebtare q\u00eb situata nuk mund t\u00eb jet\u00eb thjesht ajo ku njer\u00ebzit kan\u00eb harruar sjelljet e tyre, ose jan\u00eb jasht\u00eb praktik\u00ebs, sepse t\u00eb gjith\u00ebve iu desh t\u00eb ndalonin shtr\u00ebngimin e duarve p\u00ebr nj\u00eb koh\u00eb. Matteo Bonotti dhe Steven T. Zech, t\u00eb dy nga departamenti i politik\u00ebs n\u00eb Universitetin Monash n\u00eb Melburn, Australi, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt shkruan Rim\u00ebk\u00ebmbjen e Qytet\u00ebrimit gjat\u00eb Covid 19, arrijn\u00eb n\u00eb p\u00ebrfundimin se edhe n\u00ebse njer\u00ebzit fillimisht ishin mashtruar sepse duhej t\u00eb komunikonin duke p\u00ebrdorur nj\u00eb grup t\u00eb ri rregullash, q\u00eb shpejt u zhduk.<\/p>\n

“N\u00eb fillimin [e pandemis\u00eb] njer\u00ebzit thjesht nuk dinin t\u00eb ishin t\u00eb sjellsh\u00ebm,” thot\u00eb Zech. Ishte e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb komunikosh nj\u00eb buz\u00ebqeshje, dhe u b\u00eb e nevojshme t\u00eb shmang\u00ebsh dhe jo t\u00eb p\u00ebrqafosh njer\u00ebzit. Por pas nj\u00eb pike t\u00eb caktuar, vrazhd\u00ebsia e paq\u00ebllimshme u b\u00eb e q\u00ebllimshme dhe e q\u00ebllimshme. \u201cKjo ka p\u00ebr q\u00ebllim t\u00eb t\u00ebrheq\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen ndaj asaj q\u00eb ata e shohin si nj\u00eb politik\u00eb e till\u00eb e padrejt\u00eb, nj\u00eb lloj diskriminimi ose ndonj\u00eb shkelje e ndonj\u00eb t\u00eb drejte tjet\u00ebr,\u201d thot\u00eb Zech. N\u00eb mendjen e disa individ\u00ebve, t\u00eb kap\u00ebsh stjuardesin nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb e vrazhd\u00eb, \u00ebsht\u00eb mosbindje civile.<\/p>\n

N\u00ebse skuqja e sjelljes s\u00eb keqe nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb thjesht nj\u00eb padurim afatshkurt\u00ebr me situat\u00ebn unike dhe n\u00eb fakt nj\u00eb simbol i di\u00e7kaje shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb thell\u00eb, at\u00ebher\u00eb do t\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb t\u00eb \u00e7lirohesh nga ajo se sa thjesht t’u jap\u00ebsh stjuarduesve m\u00eb shum\u00eb trajnime se \u00e7far\u00eb t\u00eb b\u00ebjn\u00eb me p\u00ebrbuzjet n\u00eb aj\u00ebr. , edhe pse kjo nuk mund t\u00eb d\u00ebmtoj\u00eb. Nd\u00ebrkoh\u00eb psikolog\u00ebt sugjerojn\u00eb q\u00eb njer\u00ebzit t\u00eb ngadal\u00ebsojn\u00eb shpejt\u00ebsin\u00eb, t\u00eb marrin frym\u00eb m\u00eb ngadal\u00eb dhe t\u00eb ulin z\u00ebrin kur hasin n\u00eb situata t\u00eb v\u00ebshtira sociale ose t\u00eb zem\u00ebrojn\u00eb njer\u00ebzit p\u00ebr t\u00eb mos p\u00ebrkeq\u00ebsuar asnj\u00eb situat\u00eb. “I gjith\u00eb menaxhimi i zem\u00ebrimit,” thot\u00eb Bernard, “p\u00ebrfshin ndalimin”. N\u00ebse, sigurisht, semafori nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb i gjelb\u00ebr.<\/p>\n

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