P\u00ebrve\u00e7 dhun\u00ebs, fatkeq\u00ebsit\u00eb aksidentale jan\u00eb nj\u00eb objekt i lakmuesh\u00ebm i lajmeve. Arsyet e k\u00ebtyre fatkeq\u00ebsive nuk lidhen me mang\u00ebsi psikike t\u00eb nj\u00eb protagonisti, por thjesht me paparashikueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e natyr\u00ebs dhe brisht\u00ebsin\u00eb e qenies njer\u00ebzore. Fatkeq\u00ebsi t\u00eb tilla na kujtojn\u00eb se nga fundi yn\u00eb i pashmangsh\u00ebm na ndan nj\u00eb shk\u00ebndij\u00eb e vog\u00ebl elektrike, nj\u00eb tjegull q\u00eb bie nga pullazi, nj\u00eb virus rezistent, nj\u00eb stuhi e fort\u00eb ere apo nj\u00eb t\u00ebrmet.<\/p>\n
Duket paradoksal interesimi yn\u00eb p\u00ebr fatkeq\u00ebsi t\u00eb tilla. Shum\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb sh\u00ebndetshme do ishin histori fatlume, t\u00eb cilat na sjellin energji pozitive n\u00eb jet\u00ebn ton\u00eb. \u00c7udit\u00ebrisht na ngjall kureshtje m\u00eb tep\u00ebr tabloja e vuajtjes s\u00eb njer\u00ebzve q\u00eb nuk i njohim.<\/p>\n
Ndoshta ky interes ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me faktin se brenda ziejn\u00eb ndjenja trishtimi dhe zhg\u00ebnjimi. Brenda nesh p\u00ebrgjon pa pushim nakatari, ziliqari. Jasht\u00eb nesh g\u00eblojn\u00eb imazhe njer\u00ebzish plot ambicie e sukses, lidhjesh t\u00eb lumtura, karrierash e projektesh t\u00eb suksesshme, t\u00eb cilat p\u00ebr shumic\u00ebn prej nesh jan\u00eb t\u00eb paarritshme. Imazhe t\u00eb tilla njer\u00ebzish t\u00eb k\u00ebnaqur e t\u00eb p\u00ebrmbushur n\u00eb aspiratat e tyre na p\u00ebrndjekin vazhdimisht, prandaj lajmet mbi fatkeq\u00ebsi t\u00eb kobshme paradoksalisht mund t\u00eb ken\u00eb efekt \u00e7lirues. Aksidentet, shp\u00ebrthimet, zjarret, t\u00ebrmetet relativizojn\u00eb nj\u00ebfar\u00ebsoj d\u00ebshtimin ton\u00eb. Mesazhi i tyre implicit dhe leht\u00ebsues \u00ebsht\u00eb: \u201ci gjith\u00eb njer\u00ebzimi vuan<\/em>\u201d.<\/p>\n Pavet\u00ebdija jon\u00eb e regjistron k\u00ebt\u00eb leksion dhe e p\u00ebrdor at\u00eb p\u00ebr vuajtjet tona personale. Sado t\u00eb r\u00ebnda t\u00eb jen\u00eb dallimet midis fatkeq\u00ebsis\u00eb aksidentale dhe problemeve tona ekzistenciale, ato na ndihmojn\u00eb jasht\u00eb mase. Vuajtjet e tejskajshme q\u00eb po heq familja e nj\u00eb t\u00eb vdekuri n\u00ebn rr\u00ebnojat e nj\u00eb t\u00ebrmeti, apo nj\u00eb pacienti me djegie t\u00eb shkall\u00ebs s\u00eb tret\u00eb, i vendosin problemet tona n\u00eb nj\u00eb perspektiv\u00eb t\u00eb ndryshme.<\/p>\n Papritmas kujtohemi jo pa nj\u00eb lloj mir\u00ebnjohjeje p\u00ebr disa privilegje bazike, t\u00eb cilat n\u00eb zili e frustracion e sip\u00ebr, i kishim harruar totalisht. Ja ku jemi akoma sh\u00ebndosh e mir\u00eb; me gjith\u00eb zhg\u00ebnjimet e shumta, akoma s\u2019kemi humbur asnj\u00eb familjar n\u00eb aksident, akoma s\u2019na ka infektuar ndonj\u00eb virus vdekjeprur\u00ebs, akoma e kemi nj\u00eb streh\u00eb t\u00eb paprekur mbi kok\u00eb. Paradoksalisht lajmet mbi katastrofa natyrore e njer\u00ebzore mund t\u00eb na diktojn\u00eb nj\u00eb q\u00ebndrim konstruktiv ndaj vetes dhe tjetrit dhe ta forcojn\u00eb toleranc\u00ebn dhe shpres\u00ebn.<\/p>\n Me raportimet e tyre t\u00eb zymta e t\u00eb kobshme, lajmet na ofrojn\u00eb mund\u00ebsin\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb rigjetur veten. Histori t\u00eb tilla do t\u00eb duhej t\u00eb publikoheshin n\u00ebn mbishkrimin \u201cVanitas\u201d apo \u201cMemento mori\u201d (kujto vdekjen!). N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb ato nuk do ishin thjesht dokumente t\u00eb vuajtjes personale, por mund t\u00eb na ndihmonin t\u2019u p\u00ebrkushtoheshim interesave tona dhe problemeve thelb\u00ebsore t\u00eb jet\u00ebs son\u00eb.<\/p>\n Ka nj\u00eb an\u00eb negative, ka nj\u00eb efekt kontraproduktiv, i gjith\u00eb ekspozimi i vazhduesh\u00ebm ndaj dramave n\u00eb jet\u00ebt e t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve. Duke qen\u00eb imponuese n\u00eb dramaticitetin e tyre, ato nguliten n\u00eb vet\u00ebdijen ton\u00eb dhe k\u00ebrkojn\u00eb ushqim t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm, detaje t\u00eb pafundme. Kur m\u00ebsojm\u00eb se nj\u00eb avion \u00ebsht\u00eb rr\u00ebzuar diku n\u00eb af\u00ebrsi t\u00eb Nepalit, se nj\u00eb furtun\u00eb ka rrafshuar nd\u00ebrtesat e nj\u00eb qyteti n\u00eb shtetin e Mizurit, fillojm\u00eb t\u00eb reagojm\u00eb spontanisht si nj\u00eb \u201cblack box\u201d, q\u00eb regjistron pa pushim t\u00eb dh\u00ebna duke harruar se e gjitha kjo s\u2019ka aspak lidhje me problemet tona.<\/p>\n Nj\u00eb jet\u00eb e ekuilibruar k\u00ebrkon nj\u00eb peshim t\u00eb vazhduesh\u00ebm \u00e7\u00ebshtjesh t\u00eb brendshme e t\u00eb jashtme. E mira do ishte q\u00eb ta p\u00ebrpunojm\u00eb dometh\u00ebnien e fatkeq\u00ebsive t\u00eb t\u00eb tjer\u00ebve pa humbur n\u00eb detaje, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb q\u00eb k\u00ebto ngjarje t\u00eb kobshme t\u00eb mos i p\u00ebrdorim si pretekst p\u00ebr t\u2019ju shmangur p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsive tona n\u00eb jet\u00eb. Trishtimin dhe dhimbjen e k\u00ebtyre lajmeve mund ta regjistrojm\u00eb, por pa u fiksuar n\u00eb to.<\/p>\n Na \u00ebsht\u00eb b\u00ebr\u00eb aq shum\u00eb zakon ta barazojm\u00eb njer\u00ebzill\u00ebkun me empatin\u00eb, saq\u00eb kemi harruar se ndonj\u00ebher\u00eb \u00ebsht\u00eb e domosdoshme t\u00eb q\u00ebndrosh indiferent. Aft\u00ebsia jon\u00eb p\u00ebrqendruese dhe resurset tona emocionale kan\u00eb kufij. N\u00ebse duam t\u00eb kujdesemi seriozisht emocionalisht p\u00ebr nj\u00eb grusht njer\u00ebzish q\u00eb kemi pran\u00eb, na duhet t\u00eb t\u00ebrhiqemi paksa nga interesimi i vazhduesh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, interesim drejt t\u00eb cil\u00ebve na shtyjn\u00eb pa takt lajmet e p\u00ebrditshme t\u00eb kobshme t\u00eb mediave. Fundja, nuk duhet harruar se sado prek\u00ebse dhe mjesht\u00ebrisht t\u00eb paketuara na vijn\u00eb lajme t\u00eb tilla, problemet me t\u00eb cilat ato na p\u00ebrballin, nuk jan\u00eb gjithmon\u00eb tonat.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" P\u00ebrve\u00e7 dhun\u00ebs, fatkeq\u00ebsit\u00eb aksidentale jan\u00eb nj\u00eb objekt i lakmuesh\u00ebm i lajmeve. Arsyet e k\u00ebtyre fatkeq\u00ebsive nuk lidhen me mang\u00ebsi psikike t\u00eb nj\u00eb protagonisti, por thjesht me paparashikueshm\u00ebrin\u00eb e natyr\u00ebs dhe brisht\u00ebsin\u00eb e qenies njer\u00ebzore. Fatkeq\u00ebsi t\u00eb tilla na kujtojn\u00eb se nga fundi yn\u00eb i pashmangsh\u00ebm na ndan nj\u00eb shk\u00ebndij\u00eb e vog\u00ebl elektrike, nj\u00eb tjegull q\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":33777,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7422","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-artikuj"],"yoast_head":"\n